After feeling as if I was the only adoptee in the village, i.e Grantham, and not being very successful in finding any adoptee peer support groups, I approached The BHive to help me get one running. 

My head was a mixed-up mess before I discovered the links to it and my adoption.

Below are 21 pieces of advice I wish someone had passed on to me then.

What advice would you give?

The decisions leading up to you becoming an adoptee have been made for you; this is a very complicated process, and would have involved us successfully installing and initialising Relinquishment 1.0 firmware.