I've been up to stuff, you know? … Things, but recently I've also been around the block in my head, emotionally, so I thought, as it's the start of the year, although fuck me, if it isn't February already! I’d write it up … or is it down? Whichever, both.

After feeling as if I was the only adoptee in the village, i.e Grantham, and not being very successful in finding any adoptee peer support groups, I approached The BHive to help me get one running. 

My head was a mixed-up mess before I discovered the links to it and my adoption.

Below are 21 pieces of advice I wish someone had passed on to me then.

What advice would you give?

The decisions leading up to you becoming an adoptee have been made for you; this is a very complicated process, and would have involved us successfully installing and initialising Relinquishment 1.0 firmware.